A Vietnamese woman turned to Reddit after struggling to adjust to married life in Singapore, asking other Vietnamese–Singaporean couples how they deal with cultural differences.
The 32-year-old said she had lived in Vietnam her whole life before moving to Singapore three months ago to be with her Singaporean husband.
While she expected some cultural adjustments, she felt many of their arguments came down to her husband dismissing her concerns instead of trying to understand them.
Two Habits Became The Main Source Of Conflict
The first issue was how her husband interacted with female colleagues.
According to the post, he spends time with them at work, follows them on Instagram, sends them Reels, and chats with them occasionally. He insisted such behavior was completely normal in Singapore.
However, the woman said it felt uncomfortable from her cultural perspective, especially because some of the colleagues were single and replied to him more often.
The second issue was his schedule.
Although his official working hours are from 9am to 6pm, he usually goes to the gym after work and only returns home after 10pm.
Whenever she told him she wished he would come home earlier, he reportedly replied that “everyone in Singapore lives like this.”
Redditors Say The Problem Isn’t Singaporean Culture
Many commenters felt the discussion had little to do with cultural differences.
Most commenters felt the real problem was not Singaporean culture. The bigger concern was a husband repeatedly brushing aside concerns by saying, “That’s just how Singaporeans are.”
One of the top comments pointed out that the focus should not be on cultural differences but on why genuine concerns were being dismissed instead of being met with reassurance or compromise.
The claim that “everyone in Singapore” stays out until after 10pm because of work and the gym also drew plenty of pushback. Many Singaporeans said most people prefer heading home after work, unless there are plans with friends, family, or personal commitments.
Messaging colleagues of the opposite sex was generally seen as normal. But several commenters said every relationship has different boundaries. What feels acceptable in one marriage might not feel comfortable in another, and both partners need to be on the same page.
Many also encouraged clear conversations about expectations instead of debating whether something was simply a cultural difference.
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Culture practice between multicultural couples.
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