A frustrated mother has taken to social media with a blunt cry for help, saying her 30-year-old daughter refuses to work and spends her days sleeping, watching TV, and staying at home.
“I work to provide our needs and I am so tired already,” the mother wrote. She added that her daughter “can’t go to work because she can’t wake up on time,” calling her “so lazy” and asking others what she should do.
Suggestions Range from Small Businesses to Therapy
Some commenters urged the mother to take a softer, solution-focused approach instead of labelling her daughter.
One user suggested exploring home-based work aligned with the daughter’s interests, such as babysitting or starting a small food business. “If she is into F&B, maybe she can start with a few pastries and sell at a Ramadan bazaar,” the commenter wrote.
Another added that the behaviour could point to deeper issues. “She sounds depressed. Speak to her, get her help, and set boundaries. That way you’re giving support and a push.”
The original commenter later doubled down, saying, “Instead of bashing, why don’t we find a solution.”
Others Suggest Practical Adjustments
Not all advice focused on emotional support. Some users suggested more immediate fixes.
One pointed out that irregular sleep patterns might be the main barrier. “Get her a night shift job. If she can’t function during the day, she can work at night.”
Debate Spills into Broader Struggles
The discussion soon widened beyond the original post, with some users reflecting on their own exhaustion with adult life.
“How can people be 30 and do nothing?” one commenter wrote. “I’m barely surviving with work and every single day thinking what to do better. I feel so left behind… I’m seriously tired.”
Another user responded by cautioning against constant comparison. “That is your problem — always comparing yourself to others. Mind your mental health.”
A Familiar Tension in Many Households
The post highlights a common but rarely discussed tension — adult children struggling to find direction, and parents reaching a breaking point after years of support.
While opinions online varied, many agreed on one thing: the situation likely needs more than just discipline — it may require conversation, structure, and, possibly, professional help.
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