"You Are Not Invited" — Couple Sends Wedding Cards to Relatives

A couple has chosen an unconventional approach by sending ‘you are not invited’ cards to some of their friends and family members, a decision detailed in a Reddit post.

Small Wedding with a Tight Budget

The couple is planning a small garden wedding due to space and budget constraints. According to the Reddit user who shared the story, the wedding is described as a semi-destination event, taking place five hours from where many of the guests live. The couple intended to keep the event intimate, limiting the guest list to close family and friends due to financial considerations.

Uninvited Cards and Mixed Reactions

Instead of simply not sending invitations, the couple chose to send cards stating “you are not invited” to inform certain individuals about their wedding while acknowledging their presence in spirit. The user explained that the couple had decided to send out “cards” to those not invited, informing them about the upcoming wedding and expressing that they are “in our hearts on this special day” even though they wouldn’t be attending.

Guests Expected to Set Up the Reception

The situation became even more contentious when the couple asked guests to set up tables for the reception after the ceremony. The Reddit user expressed frustration, sharing that they received a message from the couple informing them that everyone would have a role in the setup. According to the message, once the ceremony concluded, the wedding party would leave to take photos, leaving the guests to arrange the tables for the reception. This unusual request has resulted in mixed reactions among the invited guests.

Parental Errands and Bridal Shower Controversy

Adding to the controversy, the couple assigned wedding chores to their parents, including picking up the cake and flowers on the day of the wedding. Additionally, the bride plans to invite friends to the bridal shower who are not invited to the wedding itself. The user, feeling obligated to attend due to their mother’s involvement in the wedding party, expressed mixed feelings about the arrangements.

Comments and Reactions

The Reddit post detailing the couple’s unconventional wedding plans quickly attracted attention, prompting a variety of responses. Some users found the situation amusing, with one individual humorously imagining how they would respond if they were “summoned” to work at the wedding.

However, the majority of reactions were critical. One user labeled the idea as “tacky,” suggesting that the couple might be hoping to receive gifts from people who were not invited. Another user agreed, emphasizing how inappropriate the situation seemed.